Parents give their children life, educated them and in most cases enabled them to earn a decent living. Even if there is a social problem, youngsters should realise they must take elderly care on as one of their responsibilities.
Is elderly care better if the parent lives with the child?
There is no doubt that living with your parents has many advantages. You can learn from the experience of the elders, benefit from their free time in taking care of the children or looking after the household. The elders also benefit as they are not left alone, contributing to their mental and physical well-being, and the children can help in times of sickness and need. Grandparents and grandchildren have a special bonding that mutually enrich their lives.
However when social circumstances are not conducive to a healthy relationships and act as a barrier, then it is better that parents and children live separately. This way you can keep the relationship cordial. But, efforts should be made to get together as a complete family and talk to one another as often as possible.
The child’s attitude towards the parent…
It’s not enough for the child to provide for the parents. It’s more important to show them affection and respect. Children should make an effort to understand their feelings and care for the elders. Sometimes, the wisdom and experience of the elders is invaluable in solving problems. Domestic problems could be discussed with the elders.
Children don’t always have to accept what their parents say, but they should make the elders feel wanted and respected. One should always be cognisant of the fact that the wheel of life is constantly turning and the youngsters themselves will have to one day depend on their children.
The parent’s attitude towards the child…
Parents should make an effort to understand their child’s socio-economic conditions, careers and family. They should try to adjust to new conditions and not interfere in the day to day affairs of their children. Unless they’re asked, they should refrain from giving advice. They should not compare today’s youngsters’ attitudes with their own when they were young.
They could try to assist in day to day tasks, like taking the grandchildren to school or paying the bills. Interaction with grandchildren often reinvigorates and delays the ageing process.
Elderly care and overcoming the generational gap
While it is true that parents should correct their children when they are wrong, don’t preach. Parents must realise that today’s lifestyle is far removed from theirs and accept that. They should allow their children and grandchildren to be independent. This way they will respect and love them.
What happens when the grandchildren live far away?
Today, globalisation has created a huge distance between many grandparents and the grandchildren. But they can keep in touch by telephone or by writing letters, via e-mail.
What else can an elderly person do to enjoy a happy relationship with the grandchild?
If the parent stays a distance from where their grandchildren live, they could invite them over as often as possible. Very young children are entertained easily with games, tasty bites and old stories. Older children take pride in sharing their knowledge about the Internet with the elders. Film, music and TV programmes are also great equalisers. A small gift once in a while which need not be expensive, goes a long way in expressing what words can’t always.
A good relationship invariably makes the elders earn the respect of the youngsters.
Elderly care can be fun and mutually beneficial.
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